Today I was robbed...

Today I was robbed.
Someone violated my personal space and took something from me.
They waited until I wasn't looking, came in through the open door, took what they wanted and left.
Without warning.

That someone was someone I know.

That someone is someone I see every day.

That someone was one of my students.

What they took is of little value - a few sharpies, and some red pens.  The value of those things equals no more than $20.  Yet I feel so icky!  I have to look at this student every day and remind myself that they still need to be loved.  I have to look past the what and see the who.  I have to reach past the action and see a child who needs me to be an adult.  Even though all I want to do is cry.

My trust is broken.
This child has changed the dynamic in my classroom for the rest of the year.
No longer can I leave things out in the classroom.  I have to lock everything away.
No longer can I trust that they are telling me the truth when I ask them a question.

Sure, I may be being a drama queen here.  I might just be over reacting.  But even if I am, this shouldn't happen in a class where the kids are well adjusted and come from really good homes.

Or am I asking too much?


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  1. I think that you need to see through the icky feeling to find the why behind the child's actions. Elementary age kids generally don't steal from their teachers unless they are crying out for help. I am willing to bet that something is going on with this child, and you are the adult he/she trusted enough to recognize the cry for help. As much as it stinks that he/she stole something from you, know that you were actually chosen by this child to be the one who helps him/her. You were given the gift of their trust and confidence in you to help. Good luck!

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    1. Thank you Kim!
      There has to be a reason why these things happen! Thank you for the pep talk!
      Erin

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  2. I agree with you and don't think you are being a drama queen at all! They know that they are doing something wrong and make the decision to do it anyway. I once caught a student taking money out of my wallet-he was supposed to be at lunch had asked to go to the restroom, I was at lunch but came back to the room because I had forgotten something. The money from my open purse was in his hand and he still denied doing anything. The parents also said it must have been mistaken identity on my part because their child would never do anything like that. It's shocking and it makes me worry about our future-if students this young can betray someone they respect like that.

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    1. It's just heart wrenching isn't it! The complete violation! I'm sorry that child's parents didn't back you up and support you even though you caught the child red handed. That definitely isn't cool.

      Thanks for stopping by!

      Erin

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  3. I'm so sorry this happened to you! It has happened to me several times over the years, and I know that icky feeling. I agree with Kim that it may well be that this child is crying out to you as the most trusted adult in his/her life. Perhaps you can connect with this child in an even more personal way than you ever imagined.

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    1. Thank you!
      I have a big job ahead of me making sure I stay that safe person that this child obviously needs.

      Erin

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  4. Oh, Erin - this is awful! Imagine the future of this student - sharpies today; cars tomorrow....the sequel of Orange is the New Black right in your class. It's good that you can share your feelings through your blog because unfortunately, this happens too often.

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  5. It is sad. This year I have 3 students, all that have taken things from our room-mostly candy or markers, but it does crush and shock you. Contacting parents sometimes helps but it's hard to know you have to lock things up now. You sound like a caring teacher-hang in there!

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